Consent is Sexy

Having a solid understanding of sexual consent isn’t just a “nice to have” — it’s what makes the swinging world (and sex in general!) feel safe, sexy, and full of good vibes. When everyone knows the rules, everyone gets to relax, connect, and enjoy themselves.

Consent is about knowing your boundaries, respecting other people’s, and checking in whenever things aren’t crystal clear. Every person involved has to agree to what’s happening — every single time.

And the best part?

Consent is genuinely sexy.

Think FRIES… but the delicious, sizzling kind.

F — Freely Given

Consent should be something you want to give — not something you feel pushed, guilted, or intoxicated into.

Keep an eye on body language — both yours and theirs. If someone looks tense, hesitant, or just not into it, hit the brakes. No one needs to “take one for the team.” That’s not the vibe.

And here’s a hot tip: Being too drunk to walk straight means being too drunk to consent. Keep your drinks to a sociable level so you can pick up on cues and enjoy the night fully.

R — Reversible

“Yes” can turn into “not right now” at any moment — even halfway through a kiss, even if you’re both naked, even if you’ve done it before.

Changing your mind is normal. It’s healthy. It’s allowed.

A few friendly, respectful lines you can use:

• “That was fun, but I’m done for now.”

• “Hey, I’ve changed my mind.”

• “I thought I was into it, but my body’s saying no. Can we cuddle instead?”

A partner who can hear ‘not right now’ without taking it personally? Big green flag.

I — Informed

Saying yes to one thing doesn’t magically mean yes to everything else. A “sure, I’d love a massage” does not translate to “and yes, let’s have sex.”

Make the check-ins part of the sexy build-up:

• “Can I undress you?”

• “Can I taste you?”

• “Want more of that?”

Little moments of clarity keep everyone comfortable — and they feel intimate as hell.

And remember: Condom use is the default in casual encounters. Skipping one without discussing it is not okay and could count as stealthing, which is a sexual offense. Don’t be that person.

E — Enthusiastic

Sexy rule of thumb: If they’re not into it, the mood won’t be either.

Silence? Not consent.

“Maybe later”? Not consent.

“I don’t know”? Definitely not consent.

You deserve partners who are excited to play with you — not partners who feel obligated or unsure. Enthusiasm is the ultimate turn-on.

S — Specific

Consent doesn’t roll over like phone data. You had an amazing play session last time? Fantastic!

But that doesn’t automatically mean it’s on again this time.

Think of consent as a live spark — you have to light it each time you play.

• Ask before touching (build the tease).

• Check in as you go (“Like this?” “Want more?”).

• Keep it flowing — you can make check-ins as smooth and sexy as the rest of the play.

Consent doesn’t kill the mood. Often, it makes the mood.

A Few Extra Nuggets of Wisdom

• These rules apply to everyone, no matter their gender or role. Everyone deserves to feel safe and respected.

• You will slip up sometimes. That doesn’t make you a bad person. Own it, apologise, learn, and level up. People trust those who can self-correct.

• If someone crosses your boundary, don’t shrink yourself. A simple “Hey, you didn’t ask first” is enough. And if they ignore your boundary again? Let staff know. Your comfort and safety matters.

  
  

In Summary

Consent means:

• Asking before you touch.

• Stopping if someone wants to stop.

• Re-checking every time you play with someone — even if they eagerly jumped you last week.

At its heart, consent is about respecting everyone’s right to their own body. When that’s honoured, the connection becomes warmer, safer, and infinitely more fun.

Consent culture is at the core of everything The Rabbit Hole Adelaide stands for — because pleasure feels best when everyone is genuinely into it.